13 10, 2018

Who Teaches Us to Be Men?

By |2018-10-13T15:55:37+00:00October 13th, 2018|Self-development|0 Comments

Male initiation in post-modern culture To our peril, it often seems like men have two speeds—neutral and pissed. This circumstance is consequent to the simple fact that men are no longer taught to access their emotions. The empowered, mature masculine has given way to what we might think of as a passive adolescence. [...]

9 09, 2018

How’s Your Self-Relationship?

By |2018-09-24T20:37:50+00:00September 9th, 2018|Self-development|0 Comments

8 essential aspects of relationship and self-care There is a story about a young monk who was sent down into the city from his mountain temple by his master to experience the world. Almost as soon as he arrived, he found it difficult to remain centered, and almost impossible to meditate. He would sit [...]

18 09, 2016

Self-Acceptance: Why We Care What Others Think

By |2016-09-18T18:23:47+00:00September 18th, 2016|Relationships, Self-development, Self-esteem, Self-worth|0 Comments

One of our more enduring social fallacies is the idea that what others think of us actually matters. While this notion clearly has primal evolutionary roots, its shift from survival instinct to social imperative has become one of our greatest obstacles to self-acceptance. At a time when our ancestors shared the planet with woolly mammoths [...]

12 03, 2015

The Season’s Call for Change

By |2015-03-12T12:52:18+00:00March 12th, 2015|Motivation, Self-development|0 Comments

Spring is a season that inspires change. We are drawn out of our winter slumber and thrust headlong into a time of vibrant rebirth, growth and change. It’s a fitting place to begin considering what changes we might like to make for ourselves, whether thinking about revitalizing our relationship, pursuing that promotion, starting a new [...]

10 10, 2014

Your Inner Critic is Never Your Highest Self

By |2014-10-10T09:27:21+00:00October 10th, 2014|Self-development, Spirituality|0 Comments

My dearest friend and I recently had the opportunity to listen to an interview with Elizabeth Gilbert, best-selling author of the spiritual travelogue Eat, Pray, Love. Her book, as well as her message of empowerment, have been an inspiration to women the world over. Interestingly, that inspiration wasn’t lost on either one of us. Of [...]

19 04, 2013

Self-blame: The Ultimate Emotional Abuse

By |2013-04-19T11:43:37+00:00April 19th, 2013|Self-development|0 Comments

Self-blame is one of the most toxic forms of emotional abuse. It amplifies our perceived inadequacies, whether real or imagined, and paralyzes us before we can even begin to move forward. We typically hear a great deal about loving-kindness in the faith traditions, like Christianity, Islam, and Judaism, as well as in the spiritual and [...]

8 01, 2010

Changes Happen from the Inside Out

By |2010-01-08T11:39:41+00:00January 8th, 2010|Self-development|0 Comments

A Buddhist monk stops at a newsstand to purchase a newspaper. He hands the proprietor a $10 bill. After waiting a moment, he says, "May I have my change?" to which the vendor answers, "Change comes from within." For our external world to change there must first be a shift in our interior landscape. I [...]

30 04, 2009

Tardiness, Self-Worth and Being Present

By |2009-04-30T11:29:58+00:00April 30th, 2009|Mindfulness, Self-development|0 Comments

In the realm of social psychology and psychodynamics, when we discuss chronic lateness, we typically do so in reference to passive-aggression and control. An individual who is passive-aggressive is, by definition, arrogant...and arrogance is bred, not by a sense of personal power, but, rather, through fear and insecurity. In a previous post, I mentioned a [...]