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20 01, 2014

New Year’s Renovation

By |2014-01-20T15:23:28+00:00January 20th, 2014|Newsletter Archives|0 Comments

We only truly live in one house. We can think of our mind, body, and spirit as its frame, furnishings, and features. Unfortunately, while this house is our one true abode, it is also the one we most often neglect. Setting an intention to cultivate and care for our house can support our personal evolution [...]

6 11, 2013

6 Ways to Create Certainty in Uncertain Times

By |2013-11-06T13:53:12+00:00November 6th, 2013|Newsletter Archives|0 Comments

As children we value structure and consistency. It’s something that keeps us secure and ostensibly safe. As adults, many of us will translate this into a desire to predict and control. The real challenge comes when we discover nothing is really predictable or controllable. What we are often confronted with is uncertainty. With that reality [...]

24 07, 2013

10 Elements of Effective Relationships

By |2013-07-24T14:53:46+00:00July 24th, 2013|Relationships|0 Comments

The other day, a friend pointed out that I very often write from the perspective of what people are doing wrong, as opposed to what they are doing right. Well, here are some things that I have found to be effective elements in a successful relationship; the right stuff. Transparency Partners who are aware of [...]

19 04, 2013

Self-blame: The Ultimate Emotional Abuse

By |2013-04-19T11:43:37+00:00April 19th, 2013|Self-development|0 Comments

Self-blame is one of the most toxic forms of emotional abuse. It amplifies our perceived inadequacies, whether real or imagined, and paralyzes us before we can even begin to move forward. We typically hear a great deal about loving-kindness in the faith traditions, like Christianity, Islam, and Judaism, as well as in the spiritual and [...]

2 09, 2011

Are You Meditating, or Repressing?

By |2011-09-02T03:25:11+00:00September 2nd, 2011|Mindfulness|0 Comments

The core intention of meditation is the release of thoughts and feelings that keep us stuck in our self-absorption. Repression is a way to avoid thoughts and feelings that are uncomfortable for us. If in releasing our thoughts and feelings we fail to be totally honest with ourselves, our practice of meditation can easily become [...]

25 01, 2011

Foreplay (Still) Starts at 7AM

By |2011-01-25T12:09:53+00:00January 25th, 2011|Relationships|0 Comments

The deeper we allow ourselves to enter into relationship, the closer we come to a state of unconditional love and mutual acceptance. The more we are removed, the further we are from the love, intimacy and connection that we, ourselves, are seeking. The challenge is fostering the willingness to let go of our ego enough [...]

10 06, 2010

Research Suggests Meditation Increases Gray Matter

By |2010-06-10T01:06:52+00:00June 10th, 2010|Mindfulness|0 Comments

If you are a meditator, you are likely familiar with the more obvious benefits of practice, which include a reduction in stress, an increased ability to enact mindfulness, greater concentration and a lowered tendency toward immediate and excessive emotional dysregulation. Recent research suggests that, in addition to the anecdotal psycho-social benefits evidenced by a regular meditation [...]

3 06, 2010

Addiction, Self-responsibility and the Importance of Choice

By |2010-06-03T11:55:42+00:00June 3rd, 2010|Addiction|0 Comments

One of the central facets of addiction is the unwillingness to take responsibility. Without exercising the all-important watershed of self-responsibility, breaking the compulsive cycle that leads to addictive behavior is all but impossible. Systems like AA or the Minnesota Model, which allow the abdication of self-responsibility to The Program, The Meeting, The Sponsor and even [...]

17 05, 2010

Foreplay Starts at 7 AM

By |2010-05-17T14:44:36+00:00May 17th, 2010|Relationships|0 Comments

There is within every relationship what we might refer to as a "gender balance". That balance does not necessarily parallel the actual gender of those in the relationship but, for the sake of this discussion, let's just assume that girls will be girls and boys will be boys. That said, gentlemen, a lesson we often [...]