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13 10, 2018

Who Teaches Us to Be Men?

By |2018-10-13T15:55:37+00:00October 13th, 2018|Self-development|0 Comments

Male initiation in post-modern culture To our peril, it often seems like men have two speeds—neutral and pissed. This circumstance is consequent to the simple fact that men are no longer taught to access their emotions. The empowered, mature masculine has given way to what we might think of as a passive adolescence. [...]

9 09, 2018

How’s Your Self-Relationship?

By |2018-09-24T20:37:50+00:00September 9th, 2018|Self-development|0 Comments

8 essential aspects of relationship and self-care There is a story about a young monk who was sent down into the city from his mountain temple by his master to experience the world. Almost as soon as he arrived, he found it difficult to remain centered, and almost impossible to meditate. He would sit [...]

12 10, 2016

The Quiet Culture of Covert Male Depression

By |2016-10-12T12:22:45+00:00October 12th, 2016|Anger, Anxiety and Depression|0 Comments

Men, in general, have two emotional speeds—neutral and pissed. A bit of consideration suggests the sense of rage plaguing the vast majority of the male population is driven by something unexpected. Rather than genuine anger, it’s more something that can be characterized as covert depression, masquerading as anger. What It Looks Like Covert male depression [...]

18 09, 2016

Self-Acceptance: Why We Care What Others Think

By |2016-09-18T18:23:47+00:00September 18th, 2016|Relationships, Self-development, Self-esteem, Self-worth|0 Comments

One of our more enduring social fallacies is the idea that what others think of us actually matters. While this notion clearly has primal evolutionary roots, its shift from survival instinct to social imperative has become one of our greatest obstacles to self-acceptance. At a time when our ancestors shared the planet with woolly mammoths [...]

23 08, 2016

Foreplay Starts at 7AM

By |2016-08-23T10:52:09+00:00August 23rd, 2016|Relationships|0 Comments

We often hear that boys will be boys and girls will be girls. When it comes to the psychology of relationships, what we’re talking about is something called gender balance. Gender balance doesn’t necessarily mirror the actual gender of each partner. It’s more the way each partner’s personal integration of masculine and feminine characteristics show [...]

18 05, 2015

Working Through Emotional Infidelity

By |2015-05-18T14:54:49+00:00May 18th, 2015|Relationships|0 Comments

Is Chatting Really Cheating? Sexual infidelity is pretty clear cut; someone steps outside the bounds of a relationship and engages in some form of sexual contact with another person. Although the implications and consequences are similar, emotional infidelity is a bit more murky, since emotional infidelity doesn't just apply to sexual or romantic interpersonal relationships. Emotional infidelity can [...]

12 03, 2015

The Season’s Call for Change

By |2015-03-12T12:52:18+00:00March 12th, 2015|Motivation, Self-development|0 Comments

Spring is a season that inspires change. We are drawn out of our winter slumber and thrust headlong into a time of vibrant rebirth, growth and change. It’s a fitting place to begin considering what changes we might like to make for ourselves, whether thinking about revitalizing our relationship, pursuing that promotion, starting a new [...]

5 03, 2015

Understanding What Motivates Your Triggers

By |2015-03-05T09:58:30+00:00March 5th, 2015|Addiction, Recovery|0 Comments

One of the keys to recovery is knowing your triggers. Probably the greatest challenge to recovery is the specter of relapse. Crucial to sustainable sobriety is understanding what motivates your unique set of triggers, empowering more effective management of influences that might lead to relapse. Addiction is complicated. It is one of the most pervasive [...]

10 10, 2014

Your Inner Critic is Never Your Highest Self

By |2014-10-10T09:27:21+00:00October 10th, 2014|Self-development, Spirituality|0 Comments

My dearest friend and I recently had the opportunity to listen to an interview with Elizabeth Gilbert, best-selling author of the spiritual travelogue Eat, Pray, Love. Her book, as well as her message of empowerment, have been an inspiration to women the world over. Interestingly, that inspiration wasn’t lost on either one of us. Of [...]

8 05, 2014

Essentials of Conscious Relationship

By |2014-05-08T15:45:44+00:00May 8th, 2014|Relationships|0 Comments

When I talk about conscious relationship, I am quick to point out the eight essential elements that are at its core. The interplay among these elements informs several different aspects of relationship, from the deep structures to the daily landscape. While no one of these elements is more important than any other, the emphasis or [...]