You may have often heard life is a journey, not a destination. The challenge comes when you find, rather than engaging the journey, you have set yourself up with a series of destinations. As a man, this is often through no fault or intention of your own, but more because of the expectations that have been thrust upon you. In this imperative, you may have lost your self-connection, leaving you disempowered, disenfranchised and often roundly disappointed when, in your middle years, you step back and look around. This can either be a time of great despair for you, or a time of great awakening—a mid-life awakening.
Your First Steps
Caught up in the grip of the Neglected Self, you can easily fall into a sort of existential depression—that subtle, cloying sense of incompleteness that, in the small of the night, haunts you, ringing hollow in your deepest heart. On the other hand, this moment can be a starting point for an exploration of personal meaning, giving you an opportunity to push back against your interior darkness and your immediate sense of meaninglessness. Sorting out the sources of your meaning—self, relationship, work and spirit—can bring you back to yourself, renewing your sense of connection to the larger canvas of your life.
Your journey is your path out of the wilderness. It is the road to claiming your life, making it your own and finding your way back to yourself. Once you choose to undertake that journey you will be on a path to discovering—or maybe re-discovering—your sense of place and your sense of purpose. Where you once found yourself as life-preserving—doing what you felt you must to keep everyone happy—you will find yourself moving into a place that is live-giving. You will discover what it means to nurture yourself—to be a true warrior on the path to freedom and resilience.
If you find yourself in this place of isolation, deprivation, disillusionment and disempowerment, I can relate, because I’ve been there. I’ve traveled around the sun 56 times in my short life on this planet and I have the successes—and the scars—to show for it. If you feel you’re ready to claim your life and are seeking someone to walk with you on the path, reach out to me so we can discuss working together to reconnect you with your own vitality and aliveness.